Posted by Anne Elliot in I recently heard a young friend of mine say something that I found disturbing. She was talking about who she wanted to date and stated “I’m only dating white boys from now on, they treat you better.” This of course freaked me out because I couldn’t see the correlation between being a particular color and having character. After all, I have only ever dated (or married) white men and we all know how well that’s turned out.
The thing I want you, my younger friends, to think about is a man’s character. That is what we should be checking out.
Who is the person you are dating
is he a good man?
is he real?
truthful?
kind?
considerate?
smart?
funny?
WELL READ?(okay, that’s one of my priorities and therefore optional)
So here is what I think the problem is… you are choosing men based on looks. There I said it, now quit being shallow! And please stop thinking that pretty on the outside means pretty on the inside. Sometimes it does, sometimes it doesn’t.
How about we try something new. Let watch what a prospective says and does and decide if you want to be with him based on that. After all is said and done you will not want to end up with a man of low character—I know this from personal experience (having been married to a man we nicknamed satan for 15 years).
So when you see those warning signs along the road—
spends more getting ready in the AM then you do.
thinks CSI Miami is high art.
thinks priorities are about choosing which game to watch.
thinks morals are mushrooms.
—listen to your heart and run fucking screaming for the hills!
Stop telling me you are only going to date this or that. I can guaran-damn-tee you will not find Prince Charming with those priorities.
Alright now Grasshopper put on some hot FMP’s and go to the library, and remember that I love you!
Lmao.Thanks for the advice
. I’m talking to someone new based on my new credentials. He’s not white. So, I’m trying! Love ya, Muah!
White black or fricken’ purple doesn’t matter…how he treats you matters!
I got it, I got it! Game of scrabble was going on in my head, but all the words are on the board now. Just wait, you’ll see
Hit that on the head !!! Great advice!!
Just wanted to say that this point was proven BIG TIME yesterday. Thanks again for the awesome advice.
Ohhhhh Goodie! I’m glad it came in handy! Skype me soon!
I was making this same point at a party and nearly got into a fight with my brother. it really opened my eyes to how close minded some people still are, even in 2010.
we are all the same tribe, and you can’t judge anyone by skin or looks..
Thanks Roger!
I find it amazing that most people (even if they do not realize it) are essentially shallow. They look at your clothes, hair, car and decide who you are. It’s sad- they don’t know who they are missing! Could be their perfect match, if they would just get dig a little deeper.
Were you married to the same man that I was married to for 20 years? I swear his nickname is Satan also! Great site by the way. I work in an OB/GYN office and hear stories like this all the time!
Thanks Michelle! I think Satan comes in many forms and most of them look like ex-husbands!